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Note: I wrote this essay several years ago.  Much like in my "why marriage sucks" essay, my feelings have changed a lot. I still love kids and I still hate BAD parents, though.



The childfree are often accused of being child haters.  I don't hate children. In fact, I love kids. Parents, on the other hand...

I hate working with parents.  They automatically get every holiday off.  They get to leave early, come in late, and stay home whenever the kids are sick.  You can never argue when someone says they have to miss work because of their child.  This, of course, means their co-workers, particularly the childfree ones, have to pick up the slack.  And people think they have the unquestioned "right" to have a fulfilling career and children.  They actually sue (and win) because they didn't get a promotion they wanted, which they were denied because they now refuse to put in the required hours, since they have to be home with their kids.  Look, you can't have everything.  Why do parents think THEY should be able to?

The thing is, I have made a choice not to have children.  Parents have (hopefully) made a choice to have children.  In theory, they will experience joy I will never know.  So, why do they think they should get that AND all the work/tax/money perks?

Parents who take their kids everywhere with them should be locked up.  Kids who are too young to know not to scream, throw things, and otherwise misbehave in public should not go out in public.  That's what babysitters are for.  Can't afford one? Tough - don't have kids.  How many dinners out, movies, weddings, etc. need to be ruined by bad parents and their screaming kids?

Parents lie to their kids like crazy.  The other day I was in a toy store, behind this woman and her young son.  Whenever the son asked for something that the mother didn't want to buy, she told him it wasn't for sale.  Yeah, it's great that you can trick your three year old son.  Wait until he's 16 and you are trying to tell him smoking is dangerous, and see how quick he believes you.

Way too many parents don't take proper care of their kids.  The other day, on just a 5 minute trip to the grocery store, we had TWO mothers and their offspring run out to cross the street in front of us.  It was absolutely heart-stopping how close we came to hitting one of the kids in both incidents.  Way to protect your kids and teach them the proper way to cross a street!

The tax code, with all the dependent deductions and child-care credits, is ridiculous. You'd think the human race was on the brink of extension with all the cash prizes people get for breeding. Hey, kids are supposed to cost money. If you can't afford it, don't have them!
Most parents who are honest will admit, if they had to do it again, they wouldn't have kids this time around - see the "Hite Report on the Family" or Ann Lander's column where 70% of respondents said they would not have children again if given the chance.  It's really nothing but lots of work with no reward.  As for the people constantly nagging me and other childfree folks about when we are going to give in and breed, what is the problem?  Why are you so desperate for us all to make the same mistake you did?  And just look at the statistics related to kids physically and sexually abused by their parents - those alone should make it obvious most people should not be breeding.

So, no, I am not grateful to the people who are bringing up the "next generation".  This planet is faced with a severe overpopulation problem (see links below).  The next generation is not being brought up well, and there is no need for it anyway.  If you really care and are desperate to have a child, adopt!! 

In the meantime, here are some related links :
Population Connection (formerly Zero Population Growth)
Childless by Choice
Childfree by choice
You have a choice!
The Miracle of childbirth

There are NO unselfish OR good reasons to have children

Overpopulation links:
World Population Clock
US Population Clock
World Overpopulation Awareness

Don't have children; they bring much trouble, toil, and sorrow. What few advantages there are to having children rarely outweigh the disadvantages."--Democritus

"Learning to dislike children at an early age saves a lot of expense and aggravation later in life."--Robert Byrne

"A child who believes in Santa Claus, who really and literally believes, because his daddy told him so, that Santa comes down all the chimneys in the world on the same night has had his thinking ability permanently impaired if not destroyed." --G. Brock Chisholm, Former Director General of the World Health Organization/ WHO

"My husband and I are either going to buy a dog or have a child. We can't decide whether to ruin our carpets or ruin our lives." --Rita Rudner

 "Leaving behind books is even more beautiful -- there are far too many children." --Marguerite Yourcenar

 "People who get nostalgic about childhood were obviously never children." --Bill Watterson, Calvin and Hobbes

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